“Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”— Steve Maraboli
Phase 1: Activation
Cutting off old friends and closing the door to old relationships feels both necessary and also ridden with guilt. Taking care of myself, moving on, and letting go feels in conflict with the call to love, forgiveness and the sticky blame game entangled with ending each dynamic. It’s a whirlwind of confusion of how to move on cleanly without causing drain or damage to myself or others. How do I honour myself and also respectfully and lovingly part ways with old energy?
Phase 2: Identification
Self-Identity:
Nice Guy
Bad Friend
Pushover
Others-Identity:
Toxic Energy
Selfish Dog
Fake Friend
Phase 3: Declaration
Feelings:
Guilt
Uneasiness
Confusion
Non-Feelings:
Completion
Relief
Closure
Results:
Mental Drain
Lingering Doubt
Radio Silence
Non-Results:
Mutual Understanding
Agreed Space
Healthy Endings
Clean Severance
Actions:
Blocking people
Deleting people
Ghosting people
Ignoring people
Non-Actions:
Thanking People
Forgiving People
Appreciating the moments
Communicating where I’m at
Open to touching base in the future
Being:
Avoidant
Irritated
Agitated
Non-Beings:
Graceful
Honest
Clear
Phase 4: Creation
New Possibility:
Graceful
New Identity:
Graceful Ender