Phase 1: Activation
Brother’s health and his partner show signs of long term degenerative patterns: vaccines, surgical birth, breastfeed, ‘not a cow’, mental health pills, mother cancer, cellulite from unnatural food sources, sugar addiction, food comforts, weight fluctuations, keeping fat to keep safe and keep relationship secure and in control, blocking actual growth as it risks destabilising dynamic, keeps brother small visioned and domesticated, illness as fear of change, no exercise regime: gym, yoga, pilates, kids on the way, pass down unhealthy patterns, witnessing a health drama for future chapters and not being able to say anything about it, facts too brutal, would split the relationship, shoot the messenger.
Patterns from our family handed over: non-excercise, weight surgery, food as comfort and control mechanism (at times, not always but definitely there in most families),
Phase 2: Identification
Self-Identity:
Futile Messenger
Others-Identity:
Lab Rats
Synthetic Suckers
Clinical Monkeys
Blind Sheep
Crash Test Dummies
Brainwashed Zombies
Control Freaks
Phase 3: Declaration
Feelings:
Helpless
Disturbed
Angry (at system)
Fear (of speaking out)
Non-Feelings:
Confidence
Congruence
Receptivity
Synergy
Results:
Mixed family health
Inconsistent personal fitness over years
Appetite to get health spot on
Patterned theories of situation
Disjointed family direction
Non-Results:
Health collaboration as wider unit
Alignment on health direction as whole family
See eye to eye with my brother
Feertile ground for personal development
Active engagement from brother to grow self
Actions:
Assessing family patterns
Assessing relationship dynamics
Questioning mainstream medical tropes
Keeping opinion to myself
Withholding valuable insights
Non-Actions:
Share my views
Share my concerns
Share my desire to help
Speak to my brother about real shit
Being:
Reserved
Muzzled
Non-Beings:
Forthcoming
Satisfied
Accceptant
Influential
Phase 4: Creation
New Possibility:
Articulate
New Identity:
Articulate Advocate